Men often struggle to strike a perfect balance between the relationship of their mothers and their wives. On one hand, their mothers have been a pillar of support throughout their life before getting married, and on the other hand, their wives enter their lives after doing major sacrifices and compromises. Men are often stuck in the dichotomy of their roles as a son and as a husband.
Here are some tips that can help in reducing the turmoil that exists in these relationships:
Many people face daily conflicts in their married life when they fail to do this step. Before getting married, make sure you have a chat with your spouse-to-be and understand how she respects elders, especially your mother. Similarly, it is important to gauge the understanding of your parents about the position and role of modern women and their expectations from their daughter-in-law. This helps in establishing the guidelines for a successful relationship.
Role conflicts lead to fights and arguments at home. Make it clear to your mother and your wife what their respective roles are in your life. It is important to make both of them realize that they cannot switch roles and that you respect and love both of them equally. Once clarity of roles is achieved, the silly arguments like who loves you more? Whom do you give attention to maximum time, get diluted?
At the same time ensure you clarify your roles and responsibilities as a son and as a husband to your mother and your wife. You are also an individual who cannot deal with the stress of juggling the demands from both the ends.
In our day to day lives, it is important to understand that there is nothing completely wrong or right when we are dealing with people, emotions, and relationships. It is just a matter of perspectives. Every individual has a different thought process. In case of conflicts, talk to both your wife and mother and analyze situations from both the ends.
Discourage any conversation or promoting them that ignite conflict. If you feel the pulse of any matter that will lead to a dispute or argument, do not discuss it at all and avoid it as much as possible. Talk about the positive happenings and the optimistic angle to everyday happening. Develop the habit of taking the learning from every incident and improving on them every time to become a better individual.