Communication & Anger
Angry people tend to interpret things personally and jump to irrational conclusions. Improving communication skills reduces misunderstandings that lead to anger.
Tips to Improve Communication Skills
Here are a few tips that you can apply to improve your communication skills.
Listening to Others − Listen to what others are saying rather than speaking first.
Not Jumping to Conclusions − Avoid mind-reading. Give a chance to the other person to put his point-of-view clearly and comprehensively.
Not Fighting Back Immediately − Keep calm and find out what the other person’s real feelings are behind his saying what he has said.
Expressing Your Real Feelings − You need to be clear about what is the driving emotion behind your anger. The most common emotions behind anger are fear, shame, guilt, or frustration.
Sometimes people hold extremely negative views about themselves that they arrive at on their own or have been drilled into them, for example − "I’m not very smart.", or "I’m dull at studies."
You need to remind yourself that everyone has lived through unhappy times in their past. It’s best to let go of any negative self-critical analyses.